OVERLOVING YOUR DESIRES
Sometimes, we get so caught up on what we want to happen. We don’t let go, we end up OVER-loving our dreams and we can self-sabotaging or slow our process. I’ve done this soooo many times, where I just obsessed over what I wanted and the outcome I expected.
Every second of the day I was holding, loving, praying and wishing only to end up at square one.
As someone who has anxiety and a Type A personality. I get into my own head and I understand how difficult getting out of your head can be. I can even start drifting into a negative thought and next thing you know, I’m feeding the fear monster.
One way I conquer this battle within is by shaking off these feelings, and bringing my mind into something else. Sometimes, I will play a game of what IF.
For every “bad” scenario I imagine a positive one to match it. That way, I convince my brain that while I’m focusing on what’s realistic and/or the negative. The results are 50/50, something good can happen as well. Even something AMAAAZING. Like, well my desired outcome! This way, our logical mind is out-witted. Hehe
And lastly, I’m going to give you my other way of imagining how the Universe works with manifestation.
This is SUPER SILLY, but this is how my brain works!
I see manifestation just like the Ron Popeil Rotissarie.
- Set your manifestation,
- Get EXTRA clear and detailed about it
- You forget it!
Set your manifestation and forget it!
After I have declared in clarity and detail what it is I want to the Universe. My job there is done, I’m free now to move onto other things. I have declared and now the next step is getting myself in the position to receive.
I had problems allowing myself to receive almost my entire life, I felt shame around receiving. When friends would give me gifts, it made me feel shameful because I couldn’t give back in the way they could. I would take things in shame or sometimes refuse gifts. I had a lot of work to do around money. Exploring your shame and true feelings around money and success is the first step to opening yourself up to the gifts ready for you.
You can start this by writing a few of these questions in a journal:
- How does money make me feel?
- What mindsets may I have picked up from my family around money?
- How does receiving a gift from someone make me feel?
- Do I feel deserving of the gifts others give to me?
- How do I react when others give to me? Do I want to give to them back immediately? Do I refuse the gift? (hint: this is a sign you may not feel worthy of receiving)
- How do I feel deep down when someone gives me a gift?
- How do I feel when I give someone a gift?
- How do I feel when they accept and refuse gifts or payment?
These are questions to sit down and ponder. If you feel shame around it, try to write down why and explore the shame.
It took me until I was a bit older to realize how rude and hurtful it was to not take gifts and/or accept when someone wants to pay for a dinner/coffee or the like. I also realized how good it felt to pay for someone else’s meal or to give a gift to someone with no strings attached.
The energy of give and receive should be balanced and once it is, the Universe will work with you.
If you have trouble receiving from the people within your direct life, you will have trouble receiving from anywhere else.
Another trick that eased me into receiving mode, was to do things that brought out my inner child. Coloring, drawing, riding my bicycle, hula hooping and things like that.
It’s important to go and enjoy life, leave the HOW to the Universe.
It’s just like if you went on an amazing first date, and you’re waiting for him to call; but instead of enjoying your life like you did before said date. You’re sitting there waiting by the phone as if this guy calling is what determines your absolute happiness. Then the minute you go out and forget about him, you get a text!
Well, the Universe is the hunk who decides to text once you give it some space and cool it. hehe.
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